AGE: 63

PROFESSION: Facilitator/Mediator/Trainer

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What is your most treasured possession?

My ability to sense the world I live in, to hear, to see, to smell, to taste, and to feel. I am a sensing organ for the universe. Lucky me!

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What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?

"Everything you love you will lose. " Each huge loss taught me something about how I show up, heal, and go on, showing up. I'm not always sure I was made stronger by losing my wife of 19 years, but I did get to know my durable capacity and resilience. I don't question interdependence as often as I used to.

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What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?

Getting to be home to a baby, grown in my own uterus, and then getting to birth and nurture her, to see her become herself, to keep showing up for this marvelous human.

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What is your idea of perfect happiness?

My head in the lap of someone growing and who loves me, loving that moment together. Chatting. Laughing. Crying. Singing. Or simply being there. or...floating on warm water looking up into the starry, starry night from whence we came. Actually, the list may be too long for this lifetime.

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What is your greatest extravagance?

Seems funny, but true, that it feels extravagant in this society to choose time to be alive, eyes and heart open to both beauty and pain. To witness buds emerge in spring and hold humans as they grieve losses unimaginable.

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What do you consider your greatest achievement?

Hungrily gobbling up all of the models I can find that help support humans to serve life, and then showing up to apply those skills everywhere I can.

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If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

Wouldn't it be sweet if I wasn't tortured by my "list of things to do"? If I always remembered that I could be in choice about where to put my attention. And, that I could find appreciation for what I choose to do; forgiveness for what I let go.

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What is a trait you are most proud of?

I can, and do, laugh and cry easily.

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What advice would you give your younger self?

Oh, sweetheart, there are so many lies the world tells you about what matters. You matter. Your choices matter. Your love matters. All of the rest... is questionable.

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What is your motto or favorite quote?

Can't do only one.

From Young Frankenstein - Could be worse, could be raining.

From Victor Frankl - Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.

From Dinosaurs - I'm the baby, gotta love me!

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Words of wisdom to younger women…

Friends...tend to those relationships, to the spaces between you. Priceless.

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Additional thoughts…

Aging is humbling. We have this glorious and challenging opportunity, over and over, to cast away preconceived ideas of restrictions due to age AND to reckon with real limitations, mourn them, then love life anyway.

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